Sexual Satisfaction in Sodom

THIS POST ADDRESSES “ADULT” TOPICS

“Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth. Like a loving doe and a graceful mountain goat, let her breasts satisfy you at all times; be exhilarated always with her love.” – Pr. 5:18-19

The LGBT community wants to claim the rainbow as their banner, and to offer true sexual satisfaction by way of freedom from the gender binary. But the truth is that it is sexual polarity that creates magnetism. It is flint and steel that result in sparks… Not random combinations of interchangeable materials. The strength of the man draws the picture in bold lines, and the beauty of the woman fills it with color. (This is one reason why egalitarianism/feminism will always lead to sexual problems as well.) The rainbow itself derives its beauty from the distinctions between the colors. An indistinct gray blur across the sky would be much less impressive. But enough about chemtrails.

Interestingly enough, the rainbow is created using two irreplaceable elements – a source of light, and a prism. These two elements combine to create a beautiful display that would not exist if either element were eliminated or replaced with something else. The resulting prismatic display is a product of two elements combining in a way that corresponds to how God made the world… and the result is beauty.

The sexual ideology of Sodom is much less like a rainbow, and much more like an incident in the paint aisle of your local hardware store that results in a soupy, grayish mess.

Our culture presents sex to us much like a drug. Its entire purpose is for our pleasure, and it creates pleasure simply by titillating our senses. It gives us a high. And if we aren’t getting as much of a high out of it as we used to, then then we raise our dosage. Another partner… Another gender… Another identity. This endless pursuit promises satisfaction, but never delivers on the promise.

This is largely because sex was never supposed to be a drug, and pleasure was never supposed to be our god.

By contrast, God’s design for sex- lifelong, heterosexual, covenant-bound monogamy- is not like a drug at all, but like a fancy feast, regularly attended. While it may not always produce the amazing experience that you had the first time you came to the table, at the end of each meal you are full. Satisfied. The feast has served its purpose.

To change the analogy, sex is like learning any discipline. Take a musical instrument, for example. The first piano lessons are very exciting. After a little while, the element of work becomes unmistakeable. The student can either quit and go pursue a different instrument that will have the same initial thrill, and the same ensuing boredom, or the student can master the instrument. After years of this kind of discipline, the satisfaction that comes from being wed to the keys is something that cannot be imagined by those who have not experienced it.

Yet another analogy: God designed sex to be like couples’ dance lessons. As the hours of practice go by, the man and the woman become more and more in sync with one another, and the experience becomes more beautiful and satisfying.

(As an aside, virginity until marriage is sometimes mocked because “it’s going to be awkward – you haven’t had any practice.” This argument is incredibly stupid. You’re going to practice somewhere and with someone. Why wouldn’t you want to practice with your lifelong companion and achieve mastery together? But, again, if sex is nothing more than a simple biological function- like walking- then I suppose practice is practice.)

None of this begins to explore what God designed sex for, given its emotional, physical, spiritual, and generational significance in the Christian worldview. I am simply talking about how sexual pleasure was designed to work.

And even this topic can’t be exhausted without at least touching on those other elements, because in the Christian worldview the pleasure of sex is enhanced and enriched by all of those things. Its generational significance for the Kingdom of God, coupled with the satisfaction of our human calibration towards fruitfulness, take sex from a momentary encounter and make it into something of eternal significance, in a heavenly way and also in a very earthy way. Sex actually, literally, changes the world. And I don’t even have time to explore the shared joys of parenthood.

The emotional significance of Biblical sexuality is so far beyond simple, fleeting excitement – sex becomes truly an act of love shared between two people bound together in the most intimate way possible, and bound that way not just while the feelings last, but by a covenant stronger than death.

Its spiritual significance runs down into the personhood of the man and the woman, who are not just mere bodies performing a function like a helium balloon rising or water flowing downhill. Rather, these are two beings, made in the image of God, male and female, becoming one. God has joined them together, and they experience that togetherness in body and in spirit, and more and more as the years go by.

It is impossible to experience the mere pleasure of sexualiy to the fullest without having these essential components present.

All of that is lost when sex becomes simply a drug, a base animal instinct to be satisfied in whatever way seems best at the time. We are not dogs, and pursuing our sexual satisfaction like dogs do will not satisfy our desires anymore than eating rabbit food will satisfy our appetites. But enough about veganism.

We are lying to an entire generation of humans. We are twisting them all the way down to their core. We are robbing them of the beauty of what God has designed, and replacing it with one more invitation to addiction.

But while the Christian message of sexuality clearly has negative restraints, rules about what should not be done, the truth is that the Christian message of sexuality is an overwhelmingly positive one. Come to the feast. Not, primarily for sexual joy – no, for something much deeper, much better, much longer lasting – the fullness of joy that can only be experienced in the very presence of God. Come to Him, through Jesus Christ; be forgiven and washed of all of your past pursuits of sexual satisfaction which were crimes against your own humanity, and against the holy law of God; come, and be made new in Jesus Christ. Many times, He throws the pleasures of godly sexuality in as a bonus. Even if He doesn’t do that for you, you will find much happiness to be had in being what you were created to be as a man or as a woman. Most of all, you will find true satisfaction in knowing and being known by Jesus Christ.

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